Monday, April 30, 2012


Sometimes I am just completely surprised by people and their nerve....

This is to those of you who have known us for YEARS and still have the nerve to talk about us behind our backs, and to our FAMILY nonetheless. Did you really think you could talk about us to our own FAMILY and it wouldn't get back to us?

So to answer some of your disgusting doubts, YES Recker REALLY DOES have Autism.

I can't believe I just had to say that.

I can't believe that there are people who know us that would doubt us and our honesty about such a horrendous thing.


To those who like to "joke" and make light of our family's situation...Shame on you.

You look and sound so ignorant and foolish.

I am embarrassed for you.

I have had to deal with things like this from strangers and random people in grocery stores and doctors offices, but from people I considered "friends," is like i said before, disgusting and hateful.

When you "joke," make light and doubt our family and what we've been going through, it belittles our endless nights of tears, sleepless nights worrying and stressing about Recker's health, and lack of development.

It is easy for you to say hatful judgmental things, some of you don't even have children. The ones that do, while you are "worrying" about which dance class or t-ball team to put your little one on, we are worrying how we're going to get through the day, how we are going to get Recker to come out of his shell and how to treat his sensory processing disorder so that we can take him out of the house to restaurants and grocery stores without having a meltdown and getting nasty looks and whispered comments about my "horrible parenting" and my "undisciplined spoiled child."  While you are complaining about how your child won't shut up in the back seat, we are praying and fasting that one day we will be blessed enough to even hear our son's voice, that one day we will have a breakthrough and have the blessing of hearing those words every parent can't wait to hear, "mama" and "dada."

You aren't just making light of our family, but you are talking about a little boy. A boy that only has LOVE for everyone. A boy who was sent directly from our Father in Heaven.

Remember that.

Remember that the next time hurtful words are about to leave your lips...

I would never wish it on anyone, but one day you could VERY POSSIBLY be right where i am today.

In case you weren't listening during conference....

" When it comes to hating, gossiping, ignoring, ridiculing, holding grudges, or wanting to cause harm, please apply the following:
Stop it!
It’s that simple. We simply have to stop judging others and replace judgmental thoughts and feelings with a heart full of love for God and His children. God is our Father. We are His children. We are all brothers and sisters. I don’t know exactly how to articulate this point of not judging others with sufficient eloquence, passion, and persuasion to make it stick.” -Dieter F. Uchtdorf
 “I have a great appreciation for those loving parents who stoically bear and overcome their anguish and heartbreak for a child who was born with or who has developed a serious mental or physical infirmity. This anguish often continues every day, without relief, during the lifetime of the parent or the child. Not infrequently, parents are required to give superhuman nurturing care that never ceases, day or night. Many a mother’s arms and heart have ached years on end, giving comfort and relieving the suffering of her special child.” -President James E. Faust

1 comment:

  1. I'm sorry you are having to go through this. I think you and your family are amazing. I can't even begin to imagine the trials of each day, of the judging glances from those who don't understand or care to understand.

    Recker is a very special young man who is very blessed to have advocates like you. I have no doubt he will make a great mark on this world. No doubt!

    Take care and don't listen to those people.
    Love your Aunt Shannon